Did you know that every aspect of your life is impacted by the way you see yourself?
One of the keys to becoming a more confident performer is to master self-talk. Whether you know it or not, you have a running conversation with yourself all the time. It is your internal dialogue, the voice inside your head that can be difficult to turn off and it is the voice that you tend to believe above all others. Basically, you are what you say you are. If you consistently and repeatedly tell yourself that you’re not good enough. You will start to feel like you’re not good enough. And then you will start to act in a way that confirms your perception of yourself. As I said, you are what you say you are. What are you saying about yourself to yourself on a daily basis? Do you encourage yourself or do you criticize yourself?
Your subconscious mind takes in everything you say to yourself and it accepts the consistent and repeated messages (positive or negative) as reality. This means that self-confidence resides in your subconscious beliefs about yourself.
Did you know that by the time you’re 17 years old, you would have heard ‘No you can’t’ on average 150,000 times? You also would have heard ‘yes you can’, but only 5,000 times. That's crazy right?! It’s almost like we’re set up to fail. That works out to be 30 nos for every yes! That makes a powerful belief of ‘I can’t’. But the good news is, regardless of this you can change your beliefs and increase your self-confidence levels.
If you want to feel, act, and become a more confident performer, you must first take control of your mind and begin to think like a confident person.
Becoming more aware of your thoughts can help you as it will allow you to identify and take control over what you think and say to yourself. Creating a self-talk log during your practice sessions is a great way to help identify your thoughts.
Creating A Self-Talk Log
1: Pick a song you’re working on that is challenging but not too challenging.
2: Have a notebook and pen handy so you can quickly write down your thoughts.
3: Practice singing the song for about 5-10 minutes, and anytime you have a thought, stop for a moment, and quickly write the thought down.
4: When you’ve finished practicing, check your notebook, look at the written down thoughts, and count them. Did you have just a few thoughts or many?
5: How many of your thoughts were unsupportive, irrelevant, and distracting? Did you make any personal attacks on yourself? For example: ‘I suck’, ‘I can never get this right’, ‘I’m shit’ etc? How many thoughts were negative?
6: How many of your thoughts were supportive, relevant, and helpful to your performance? Thoughts that helped you to reinforce good techniques in order to get the desired outcome. For example: ‘Keep an even airflow’, ‘that one was good’, ‘I just need to watch my effort levels with this one’ etc. How many thoughts were positive?
Once you’ve analyzed your thoughts, you can begin to change them and make them more conducive to building you up into a more confident performer.
I want you to take a look at all of the negative thoughts you had and begin rewriting them into more supportive and self-enhancing thoughts. For example, if you think ‘I always mess this section up’ I want you to replace that thought with something more positive like, ‘Chill out, I can do it, even the best make mistakes, I just need to spend a little more time on this section’. Next time you hear yourself thinking negative thoughts, overwrite them with new more positive, and encouraging ones.
Like I said at the start, you are what you say you are and YOU ARE A WINNER. Start speaking positivity over yourself on a daily basis. Speak what you want to be as though you are... Successful people think like this. Winners think like this. Think the thoughts that are going to ultimately move you in the direction of your future performance, success. I hope this helps you as it has helped me!
If you have any questions, send them through. I’m always happy to help!
Thanks for reading!
That’s it from me. Peace out! ;)
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